Today we are going to discuss the importance of winning battles as a parent.
Now, if you have been following my videos for some time, you understand that we, at all costs, try to avoid conflict, battles, and fighting with our children, and keep the peace whenever possible.
However, there are some issues that you cannot let go of with your child or teenager. These are things that are your personal choice. These issues should be very clear in your mind. You should feel that they are vital and that you must take a stand upon these issues.
You should have a very clear understanding of these things. Your reasons should be very clear in your mind before you even get into a conflict with your child.
But when such issues comes up there are certain things that you, as a parent, cannot and should not let go. Some examples of these issues might be safety, honestly, stealing, lying, or criminal behavior. So if or when these come up, you should deal with them accordingly.
If you get into a conflict with your child on these issues, you must do it with the understanding that you are going to win. Be very clear in your mind what the issues are, where you are going to make your stand, and make your stand firm and strong.
Do not give in, do not back up, and do not negotiate. These are issues you cannot negotiate upon. Again, you should try to avoid conflicts whenever possible, but if you are in a conflict with your child or teen, you should go into it to win.
This means that you have to be prepared for an all out battle. You cannot be running off somewhere else. If you are in a discussion with your child about something and it is an important issue to you, you have to carry it out to the end.
