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1-Don’t be friends:
Your teen needs a parent. You need to be in the position of authority and have respect.

2-Do not argue or debate:
Your teen is the child. You are the parent. You do not have to answer for your decisions or defend yourself. You should discuss things with your child and seek his or her opinion when you are able to be flexible.

Your home is not a democracy. It is a dictatorship and you are the one in charge. This is what your child needs.

3-Encourage outside activities:

Structure is good for teenagers. Keeping active is good for teenagers. Structured activities are very good for teenagers.

4-Stay involved with your teen’s school:
Your child may look big but he is still a child. You want to keep up on how he is doing so that you can catch any problems early.

5-Maintain house rules:
Your rules should not be overbearing and they should be age appropriate. An 18 year old should have more freedoms and privileges than a 12 year old. However, as we said before, structure is good for teens.

6-Encourage part time jobs:
This will help instill in your child the value of money as well as encourage the development of responsibility.

7-Pay attention to your teen’s friends:
This will give you an idea of the kinds of things your teen may be doing. Also, one of the major warning signs that your child is having a serious problem is a change in friendships. If you don’t know who your child considers friends, you won’t know if that changes.

8-Be around:
Your teen will not relate to you the way he did when he was younger. Teens tend to be fairly closed. This is normal and expected. However, there will be times when you child will open up to you provided that you are there. To make sure you don’t miss this small windows you have to make yourself available.

9-Let your teen fail:
Your child will never learn from his mistakes if you don’t let him make them. Be there with advice, but only if it is requested.

So bite your tongue and watch him fall. Your child will bounce back and be better off for the experience.

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    Anthony Kane, MD
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          5 Responses to “The 9 Rules of Raising Teenagers”

          1. andrea Says:

            excellent advice

          2. Cindy Says:

            Son won’t allow me to take his skateboard or belongings when he breaks the rules. He is physically violent to me. His dad and I are divorced and his dad encourages this kind of behavior. I already sent one son to live with his dad. His dad has bipolar, adhd, anger mgmt, and ODD. Other son has all this. Neither take meds. This son may have bipolar but meds didnt work. I have 3 younger children to take care of. How do I discipline this son? I will not send him to his father as the older son is shoplifting, completely disrespectful, and violent. Any advice?

          3. Lydia Says:

            Thank you for you excellent advice

          4. Jamie Says:


            Please check out my blog on raising teens. I am a middle and high school teacher and the mother of a 16 and 18 year old. Please check out my new blog and make comments- no one has yet!!!

          5. Mums Lounge Says:

            I agree and disagree with some of your advice above. Yes their needs to be a clear line of who is in charge but I wouldn’t go as far as saying DO NOT be friends with your teen, as you need to be their support and if there is no friendship then how can you expect your teen to open and truthful to you. What you need to be is a friend as well as parent and there needs to be a clear distinction between the two. That was probably the only tip of the above I disagreed with everything else was spot on thank you.

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