One of the mistakes parents make when their children fight, is that they try and make peace between their children. This is a mistake!
One of the benefits of having siblings is that it teaches your child how to resolve conflicts with other children. That means in the protected environment of your home, your child learns how to work out or resolve conflicts between himself and his peers.
People come into conflicts with others all the time. Adults know how to resolve these conflicts peacefully. But this is something that they needed to learn to do. Children are not born knowing how to get along with others. Children learn how to do this by interacting with their brothers and sisters.
If you become the peacemaker, you rob your child of that developmental task. He needs to learn to make peace by himself.
That is the problem of getting involved when your children fight with eachother. Your children will be in conflicts with others the rest of their lives. They must learn how to resolve these conflicts peacefully. Your children must learn also that they will not always get their own way. That is just how the world is.
Let your children work out their own problems and come to their own resolution, themselves. You just stand on the side and make sure nothing gets out of hand.
