Ever wonder how can you evaluate if your child really has a problem controlling anger? Everyone can understand that if a child explodes, or is constantly raging around, or is easily set off; there is a child anger management problem.
What about the quiet child? Can a quiet child also have an anger problem?
Possibly! There is something called passive aggressive behavior. A child with this type of anger does not explode. In fact, he does not show anger outwardly at all. But if you look carefully, bad things keep on happening when this child is around. Cell phones get lost and things get broken.
This type of child can really alienate others. He is the child who is able to pick out the weaknesses of others and set them off. This type of child may not appear angry, but he is surrounded by anger and discord. It seems whenever he is around, other people start arguing with each other.
What happens is that the child expresses his anger by silently taking revenge. He does things in secret to get back at you or somebody else.
There is a great story I heard once about a teacher, who had a child in her class with a passive anger problem. Once, the child was very angry at the teacher, and later the teacher found her car keys in a flower pot, somewhere in the classroom. The child had taken it and hid it there.
An angry child can explode. But an angry child can hide his anger, also. You have to really know if your child has an anger problem or not. That is your job as a parent.
I have for you a way to evaluate the anger situation in your home. It’s located at http://ccparenting.com/anger. There you have an anger management profile which you could take quickly in a couple of minutes or so.
You have a complete anger analysis; whether your child has a serious anger problem in your home or not. So go there and find out if your child has an anger problem or you yourself have problem with your anger.
Again, the location is http://ccparenting.com/anger . Go there and you should have your analyses done very soon.
