Do Violent Children Become Violent Teens?

Today I want to discuss the importance of handling a young child who behaves in a violent manner. What I mean by this, is that there are certain children at 5, 6 or 7 who learn, have the habit, or something inside of them, where when something goes wrong, they talk back, they hit, or they verbally or physically abuse other children or people.

They are quite simply, appropriate consequences ( http://ccparenting.com/frconvid.html ) need to be given to violent children immediately to correct their behavior.

Many times parents do not know exactly what to do about this and as a result they let it go hoping the violent child will grow out of it.

Usually the child does not grow out of it.

What usually happens is that violent children who are 5 or 6, become older violent children who are bullies. They become violent teens, and then they become violent spouses or violent adults.

A parent must address this problem aggressively and thoroughly when a child is still young. What that means is…you give a series of consequences for violent behavior. You do not let your violent young children get away with verbal abuse or physical abuse of other people, even at young ages of 4, 5 or 6.

You explain to your child it is wrong and give appropriate discipline at that time.

If you do that, your child will learn that violence is not the way to solve his problems and he will learn other, more appropriate socializing techniques that will make him more fit to be a member of society… as well as a better behaved child, a better behaved teen, and a better behaved adult.

Again, it is important to address these problems early because violent children do not get better by themselves. They usually get worse by themselves if the children are left on their own with no guidance.

Make sure you have a series of consequences for the violent behavior. When given appropriately, you will be able to handle this problem in a fairly reasonable and easy manner.