How to get your defiant child or teenager into the habit of listening to you. It’s really quite easy.
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What we recommend is this. You have your child do little things. For example, would you pass the salt please, things that people would never say no to, and you keep on doing a couple of things like that – five, ten a day – small requests that are very easy to comply with. And what happens is, you gradually train your child to obey you and just respond to your requests.
For example, let’s say your child, Timothy’s an 8-year-old boy, always says no matter what you ask. So could say something like this. Hey Tim, would you mind getting in the freezer and bringing out the ice cream. I want to give you some ice cream now. Now most children are gonna respond with that right away. And what you do is you develop this pattern of listening behavior and your child will eventually get used to listening to your requests. And as you go further along, you can increase the size of the requests. It’s a very easy thing to do. You can do it right away. You can do it every day and you’ll find what will happen is your child will get used to listening to you. And it works for children as young as 2 and it works for teenagers, and it also works for adults.
Honey…
Yeah.
You know that dress you wanted to buy?
Yeah.
I’d like to get it for you. Would you mind getting my wallet and bringing me $300.00?
Okay. Thanks.
See, it works.
Again, this is Dr. Anthony Kane with the Complete Connection Parenting Program. If you want more parenting tips like this, please go to our Website at ccparenting.com and sign up for our free newsletter.
