Today I want to discuss with you child discipline and using consequences to set and enforce limits.
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Children need limits. It is very clear they need limits. First of all, children are not mature enough to handle themselves properly in the world. That is why they live at home with you.
A child needs to be told what to do and when to do it, until he develops the maturity to keep himself safe in certain situations.
A child without limits will go out and stay out all night. He will go to dangerous places. He will get involved in dangerous things.
Your job as a parent is to protect your child and keep him out of trouble. One of the ways you do that is by using limits.
How do you enforce these limits? You use child discipline. Consequences are part of an overall child discipline strategy to help you to enforce limits that you set.
Your child will try to test your limits. Believe me, this is normal. Every child tests limits. It is part of growing up.
You need to have a consequence in place to discourage your child from testing your limit and to let him know that your limit is a real barrier.
It is critical your child understands their limits, because the world is full of limits. It is full of things he cannot do. There are rules and boundaries.
For example, your child can’t go onto someone’s property, because he wants something. He can’t take something from other people, because he wants it. He can’t speed in his car, because he wants to. There are limits. It is part of living in society.
Your child has to learn that limits are real, limits are important, and limits are part of getting along with everybody else in the world. You use consequences to teach this lesson.
Many parents find that their consequences are not effective. Often their children don’t seem to care.
I made a video for you which shows the #1 mistake that parents make when giving consequences. This mistake is the main reason their consequences are not effective.
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