It can be very frustrating when your child does not obey or listen to you. What I mean by not listening is that it is a pattern of not listening. He always refuses to do what you say.There is a very simple technique that works in children, teenagers.
What we recommend is this: have your child do little things such as passing the salt, things people would never say no to. Keep asking five to ten small requests a day that are very easy to comply with. You will see that this will help gradually train your child to obey you and to respond to your requests.
For example, your child Timothy, an eight year old boy, has always done what you asked.You could say something like this: Hey Tim- would you mind getting in the freezer and getting the ice cream out? I want to give you some ice cream now. Most children will respond to that right away. You develop this pattern of listening behavior and your child will eventually get used to listening to your requests.
As you progress, you can increase the size of the request. It is a very easy thing to do. You can apply this technique right away and see results. Do it every day and you will find that your child will get used to listening to you.
It works for children as young as two and it works for teenagers. It also works for adults.
Heres an example:
Honey, you know that dress you wanted to buy?
Yes?
I would like to get it for you. Would you mind getting my wallet and bringing me three hundred dollars?
Okay – thanks!
See it works.
