Today we are going to discuss how important it is to be clear, precise, and direct when giving orders or instructions to your child.
There are two reasons for this.
Number one: The basic reason is because your child has to be able to comprehend what you are saying. If you are clear, precise, and direct it is much more likely your child is going to understand what you are asking.
Number two: More important is that you are the authority figure in your home and with your children. You must behave that way. People in charge or with authority are very clear with their orders. People who feel less confident about their authority will be more vague or indirect about what they are asking.
An example of the wrong way to do it is as follows. It is nine o’clock at night, your child is supposed to be in bed, and he is playing a video game. You go up to him and say, “Bobby, it is nine o’clock, you know the rule Bobby you are supposed to be in bed – don’t you think you should turn off the video game now? It is time to go to bed”.
This is very indirect. It shows a lack of confidence on the part of the parent.
The proper way is to say, “Bobby, nine o’clock, the video game needs to be turned off, and you go to bed, now”. Very straight, video game goes off and in bed now. This way shows much more confidence. You must have confidence in your authority as a parent because you are the authority figure in your home and your child must see this.
It is for your child’s benefit.
hy, my son has adhd, the trouble is that he is 16yrsold and stays up untill goodness what hours, he watches dvd and plays his ex box, and i have power struggles with him trying to get him to turn it off, i have even taken his tv from him to no evail, at times the stress in our home gets pretty bad, i have also 2other sons 8 and 6, i would ,i would like youre advice as hes 16 and not a young lad thanking you mrs pearl williams