No one is born knowing how to be a parent. For the most part we are learning as we go along staying (hopefully) at least one step ahead of our child.

The following is a list of 5 common parenting mistakes. We have made them already so you don’t have to:

Mistake #1- Do what I say, not what I do-
Solution- Do what you say and stop doing what you do. This is a lot harder than it sounds and it sounds really hard. Just try to explain to your child why a PG-13 or R rated movie is okay for you and not for him. As a parent, it isn’t.

Mistake #2- Comparing Children-
You may be trying to encourage your child to do better by giving an example or you may just be blowing off frustration. Whatever your reason, comparing one child to another never ever comes out good.
Solution- Just don’t do it.

Mistake #3- Doing Nothing-
It is easier to ignore problems than deal with them. Sometimes this works. Sometimes it doesn’t.

Solution- If it is a problem that your child will grow out of with time and isn’t casing him or anyone else serious harm, them it is okay to bury your head. You are going to have no shortage of thinks to correct in your parenting career so you need to be selective. That’s okay.

However, if is a problem that will not get better with time, or that will cause your child harm if it continues, then you must address it. Neglecting a small fix when your child is young can result in the need for a months or years of hard work to fix it later. You can be selective, but be smart about it. If a problem is not going away, catch it while your child is young.

Mistake #4-Bribary
Don’t use treats of rewards as a payment for compliance. There are so many problems with this that I made a video just about this topic. Go to:

Using Rewards

Mistake #5-High Expectations-

Children develop at different rates. If your child takes longer than the parenting book average to start talking or be toilet trained do not despair. It does not mean that your child is defective. Children develop at different rates. If your child is taking his time meeting development milestones it is probably means nothing.

Check with your pediatrician to make sure that there is no physical problem and beyond that just sit back and enjoy your child’s unique style. Remember, Albert Einstein didn’t talk until he was four years old and according to the most parenting surveys, he did okay.

For more go to:
Parenting Mistakes

Warmly,

    Anthony Kane, MD
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          4 Responses to “5 Common Parenting Mistakes and How to Fix Them”

          1. Fozieh Says:

            Hi I don’t know how to thank you for all the information and knowledge which you give to all the parents abouth soulving the proublems with their children . You are a lifesaver and god bless you. I learn and listen to all your advises and so happy because works very well.i am looking forward to get more information. Best Regards.

          2. Rhonda Tankersley Says:

            I think most of the advice is good .. easier said than done though. We automatically ‘do as we do’ and I think that unless it is lewd or inappropriate behavior, that the child need to discern that it is ok for mom to drink a glass of wine with supper, even though it is not ok for the child to. The only question I have is, Are not we rewarded for good behavior as adults? When you pay your bills on time … you are rewarded with good credit. When we attend church, and do good deeds and love Jesus as or Savior … are not we rewarded for our ‘good’ behavior’ ? I think that in this age of ‘not spanking and not being able to exercise the ‘corporal’ punishment that was given to us as children {and we turned out ‘ok’} why not teach rewards for good behavior? I have first hand realized that ‘time out’ is not as effective, and it seems to just do as it means … it passes time. My old Grandma Block used to say “I am gonna box your ears” I never one time made her show me what that meant, but I was a curious as can be to what it encompassed. Again, this is just my opinion on the matter. :)

          3. Leigh Says:

            Could not print this off to add to my file on parenting. I cannot remember all of this over long periods of time and want to share with my married daughter. Why can’t we print?

          4. dave Says:

            Leigh–In windows, print by highlighting text (left click, cover it up) and then when you press file:print, choose selection rather than all.

            Rhonda–I agree with you. I am surprised at the PG-13 example. Kids absolutely need to be shown and understand very early there are differences in what is appropriate for younger kids vs older kids (bedtimes, sleepovers, crossing the street, walking to friend’s house), and kids vs adults. This is even easier to explain if it is a regulation, like drinking and movie age limits. I don’t have to stop driving just because my kids can’t.

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