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You have to understand what your child is trying to achieve.
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(1) resent you and try to attack you, and
(2) try to show he has control over you in some aspect.
That is what the foul language, bad language, or cursing achieves.
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The way you handle this problem is to recognize what your child is trying to do and do not get sucked in. You do not get drawn into a battle; cialis levitra viagra. You do not respond at this point, and you do not let your child suck you into an argument or respond really in any way.
You want to maintain your dignity and control of the situation.
For example, let’s say your child comes home late and misses curfew, your consequence is for the next week, the next couple of days, or the next couple of times he has got to be home an hour earlier – cialis levitra viagra. He gets angry and curses at you; cialis levitra viagra. Cialis levitra viagra: you say, “Nevertheless, for the next week, you have got to be home an hour early” and you walk away.
You do not get dragged into battle. You do not say, “How dare you curse at me.” You do not get involved in any way at all in what he said.
That does not mean you let it go; cialis levitra viagra. You can come back later at a different time and say, “You know you cursed at me yesterday, you cursed at me an hour ago, two hours ago. Cialis levitra viagra: you are not allowed to do that and there is a consequence for that also” and then you give a consequence for cursing.
Do not let the cursing, the bad talk, the bad language, or the anger of your child get you off track. Your child’s goal is to exert his power cialis levitra viagra, exert his control and to show you that he has something over you. Do not let him get away with it.
Stay in control, stay in focus, keep on topic, and at a later time when things are calm, go back and address the cursing or the bad language – cialis levitra viagra. Do not let it go; cialis levitra viagra. Do not say you are giving in; cialis levitra viagra. Don’t do anything other than stay on track now and make sure you address it later.
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will try this, key is remembering later that a consequence has to be given, or something taken away.
the problem is , there is always something else in the mean time that may get one off track, like another behavior, then there are more consequences to give.
will try to stay calm and not react, i have been trying this, but then for get to give a consequence.
have twelve ( almost 13 yr old boys )
thanks,
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Thank you Dr. Kane! Great advice.
Thanks a lot…as always very helpful. It works on my 6 year old…I hope it still works when he is a teenager…
Thanks for the tip.What do I do if my teen threatens to run away from home or commit suicide…? I get scared to set any consequence because it seems to back fire.
My son follows me, room to room and continues the cursing, alternating with begging, and insults. I can walk away. go to my room and he will yell outside my door. I often have to completely leave the house, though at times he has grabbed the keys, so I cannot.