Television and Behavior Problems In Kids
by Kim Patrick
Anyone else have problems with the television and getting ready for school in the mornings? Should we make a rule that there is no television before school each week day, or should we just leave it up to our kids to figure out how to organize themselves?
This is a question that many parents struggle with.So what is the answer? It will be different for each individual family.I have a sister with three kids, ranging in ages from 14 years down to 9 years – cheap viagra online without prescription.She has the television on all morning while the kids are getting ready for school; cheap viagra online without prescription.It works for her; cheap viagra online without prescription.Her kids are motivated and understand what they have to do each morning before leaving – cheap viagra online without prescription.In that situation it works well.
My kids are a different story – cheap viagra online without prescription.When the television is on my kids are always watching it; cheap viagra online without prescription.Perhaps that has something to do with the fact that we had no television for six months cheap viagra online without prescription, and when we got it back they were a bit excited.Anyhow, it is harder for me to use the same tactic as my sister does because it simply doesn’t work with my children.
My kids and I had a family meeting and chatted about the best way to do things in the mornings. Cheap viagra online without prescription: we decided that if they could get organised well in the mornings for one week without the television, we would let them try with the television again.So we gave it a go.After one week they were given the privilege of television again and I started to observe.
It has been a couple of weeks since I reinstated that privilege and I noticed that this morning none of my children did their chores (now I’m talking just three minutes of drying dishes here, not half an hour of cleaning).I also observed my 10 year old daughter watching television despite the fact that she had homework due in this today that wasn’t finished.I gave her a couple of gentle reminders but to no avail.
Now I know that she will get a consequence at school for not doing the homework, but I am also not happy with her choices so I will have to make a few changes in order to help her out a little; cheap viagra online without prescription. Cheap viagra online without prescription: just as well it is family meeting day again today.We will discuss the issue of getting organised before school and everyone can have their say about how they think mornings should be handled.Then, after everyone has spoken we will all agree together on the best possible way to “do mornings” well.
This way the kids are having input and they are very likely to abide by it – cheap viagra online without prescription.It is important to give your child some amount of freedom and give them opportunities to try to do things right.This helps develop many skills for life. Cheap viagra online without prescription: if you always lay down the law you actually deprive them of learning opportunities. Cheap viagra online without prescription: when you let children try and fail they learn perseverance, patience, and self control, all of which are necessary in the adult world.
The verdict is in: do what works for your family with the television in the mornings. Cheap viagra online without prescription: if something doesn’t work, try another way until you get what is right for your family dynamics.And don’t be afraid to change tactics.Just communicate what you are doing with your kids all the way and you will have less behavior problems with them in the mornings.
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Kim Patrick is a single mum with four children who lives on the Sunshine Coast of Queensland cheap viagra online without prescription, Australia.She is a seminar speaker cheap viagra online without prescription, parenting coach, author and also runs an online mentoring program to empower parents to raise their children well.
Kim’s latest creation is the “My Sleeping Angel” CD series aimed at facilitating behavioural changes in children while they are asleep.These CDs have earned her national television recognition as well as much media attention.Kim’s web site is http://www.yourchildcanbehave.com .
This sounds like a really good idea for kids that get out of bed. Mine does not. Saye she doesn’t fit in with the school she’s in this year. Thanks for sharing your ideas. My daughter is AD/HD – ODD to the extreme.
[Then, after everyone has spoken we will all agree together on the best possible way to “do mornings” well]
I have a bit of a problem with this one line. It suggests that families are a Democracy. Perhaps I’m misinterpreting. I’d be more inclined to suggest that everyone has a ‘voice’ in the discussion vs. a ‘vote’. I think it should always be clear that the decision is ultimately up to the parent. At some point you could end up with all the kids wanting something that you don’t agree with and it can become a problem (particularly as they hit their teens).
Again, perhaps I’ve just misinterpreted. Other than that one line, this is really good material. I TOTALLY agree with the idea of family meetings to discuss issues. I think it’s a powerful tool and one that we have not been doing enough of. Thanks for the encouragement.
we have no tv on in the mornings as this only makes the kids sitt and watch it.. ive told them if they want to watch the tv b4 school they hav to be ready by a certin time and if not they miss out on it… Ive 2 daughters with mild intellectual disabillites and my oldest is 12 and she also has adhd and odd…. the 2nd oldest is 9 and she is add… and some mornings is a stuggle to get them both out of bed let alone get them to school on time…