Today we are going to discuss the value of showing your oppositional defiant disorder child or teenager that you value and respect them. As a parent, you want to show your child or teen that you respect them, value them, and think that they are capable of doing the right thing.
This is important because our children live up to our expectations. This means that if you expect your child to be well behaved and excel, then your child will be more inclined to do so. What I mean by that is if you feel that your child is capable and can do it, then your child will live up to your expectations.
On the other hand, if you believe that there is something wrong with your child, like for example, that he has ODD or ADHD and he is not going to behave because he has that label; then he is going to live up to that expectation also. Our children live up to our expectations.
So you want to be sure that you genuinely feel that way. You should feel that your child is capable of behaving himself and that he is able to do what you ask him to do. You want to be sure that you believe that your child is capable of being a winner and not a loser.
If you as a parent believe that your child is a loser, then your child will believe that about himself. Your child will fulfill your expectations and will perform poorly and become a problem child. On the other hand, if you really truly believe that your child is a good child and is capable of having behavioral problems here and there, but in essence you believe that he is good and capable; then your child will also see that picture of himself and he will come out of these problems and grow up to be successful.
It is really up to you as the parent. You have a lot of control in these areas as a parent. You can control your children through the expectations that you have for them. It will develop a healthy relationship with them.