Are you tired of your child fighting with you? The arguing? The talking back?

Is your child’s behavior destroying your home? Your marriage? Your life?

These are some of the many problems that go along with having a defiant child.

Difficult defiant child behavior doesn’t just affect your child. It causes a ripple of disharmony and discord that seem to flow from your child and cause pain and discomfort to everyone around him.

If you are the mother of a defiant child you might hate to be seen on the street with your child. You may be embarrassed to be with your child in a public place.

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Many fathers don’t want to be at home. They spend more and more time away because it’s painful and unpleasant to be at home with their family.

You may be trying everything you can think of but nothing seems to work with your child. Your child fights and argues with you.

And you never know what is going to set him off. One day it is because you didn’t cut the ends off of his bread. The next day it is because you did cut the ends off his bread.

You never know what to expect. You just go through your day, moment by moment dreading the next unpredictable explosion that you cannot anticipate but that you know is going to come.

You may feel like you are losing control of your child, your family and your home. Your child is getting worse day by day, more argumentative, more defiant, and there is nothing that you can do about it.

What most mothers and fathers don’t realize when they are faced with such a child is how simple and easy the solution usually is. This is what over 5897 parents have learned since I have released How to Improve Your Child’s Behavior in 2003.

Parents who participate in the program tell me that they can enjoy their child again. They are happier, their lives are better and their children behave better. Some parents see results the second month, some the first month and many parents see a change in their child as soon as they apply the first lesson.

What I have seen time and time again, is how even in the most seemingly desperate situations, how quickly parents can turn things around. All it usually takes is a little change here or there and you will have a warm, loving, obedient child.


Anthony Kane, MD
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I sent this article out to a number of parents who were having difficulty with homework issues.The responses were so favorable that I thought I would make this available to everybody.

If you like this article (or if you hate it) or if you have no feelings about it at all, please let me know by posting a comment with your feelings.

Homework, Parents, and Kids

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My daughter walked in the door from school, threw down her
 backpack, and raced back outside.

I called out to her as she 
ran through the yard.

“Do you have any homework?!”

“No, not tonight!” she called back.

When I heard this news, there were always mixed feelings. I was 
relieved that she attended a school which gave very little
 homework to the students in grades one through six, but I 
worried at times that she might be falling behind students at
other schools.

After all, doesn’t homework help prepare kids to
 perform better in their later years, increase their discipline,
 and help them on test scores that are crucial for college

The research on homework might surprise you.

The research shows limited verification of homework’s
effectiveness, but does show that it’s been on the increase for
 a number of years.

A 2004 national survey of 2,900 American
 children conducted by the University of Michigan found that
 time spent on homework is up 51 percent since 1981.

A 2000
 survey showed that students ages 6 to 8 did an average of 52
minutes a week in 1981, and, by 1997, were up to 128 minutes a
week, says Alfie Kohn, author of “The Homework Myth: Why Our
Kids Get Too Much of a Bad Thing” (DaCapo Lifelong Books).

But, according to Harris Cooper, professor of psychology and
director of the Program in Education at Duke University in
 Durham, N.C., homework doesn’t measurably improve academic 
achievement for kids in grade school.

In fact, he found that, “there is almost no correlation between homework and academic
 achievement in elementary school and only a moderate
 correlation in middle school. Even in high school, any benefits
 start to decline after kids reach a maximum of two hours a

And not only can excessive homework be ineffective in helping
 your kids perform better, it can take a toll on the quality of
 a family’s life.

Sara Bennett, author of “The Case Against
Homework: How Homework Is Hurting Our Children and What We Can
Do About It,” says homework can “take away from family time,
 puts parents in an adversarial role with kids and interferes
 with the child’s ability to play or have other after school 

“For middle school and teens, it limits crucial
 time with their peers. Students of all ages are getting too
little sleep, which then impacts their learning in school.”

And while homework can create one more piece of the stress pie
 most American families are feeling these days, it can also have
 benefits. It especially benefits kids when it teaches new 
concepts and adds to what kids have learned during the day,
 increasing their ability to think independently.

But too often,
 homework involves tedious busy work that consumes great amounts 
of time and won’t be remembered a month later. So if your child
 or family is being unduly stressed by the “homework demon,”
 here are some options:

Talk to your child’s teacher directly, and tell them what 
you’re experiencing. Most parents do not communicate these 
concerns, so teachers don’t see it as a big problem.

Get together with other parents and talk to administrators 
about the amount of homework given out.
You’d be surprised at
what you can accomplish.

Don’t do much of your child’s homework for them.
A dependent
 child will not do well when they go out into the world. Provide
 a quiet and well-lit space for them, and let them be. Help them
 when it’s needed.

Give your child options when they get stuck with homework:

They can call friends for help, get online, get a tutor, find
 extra help at school, etc. As long as they know there are
 options, they can stay in action and find solutions.

Our kids are being robbed of one of the most important
 things that exist in their life, stress-free time with their 
families. First and second graders with homework stress isn’t
 just a bad idea, it’s ineffective. So is five hours of sleep a
night for high school age kids.

Excessive homework doesn’t just 
rob our kids of precious time, it extinguishes a love of 

I think it’s time for parents to sound the school alarm.

Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC


Anthony Kane, MD

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Many parents of ADHD children are worried about giving their children medication to treat their child’s ADHD. There are many reasons for their concern, but one of the greatest concerns is the fear that parents have that they are setting up their children to have a future drug abuse problem.

Most parents know that ADHD teens have a much higher level of drug abuse than their normal counterparts. Parents have also heard theories that taking drugs like Ritalin increases the risk of drug abuse. The idea is that routinely taking Ritalin, which is actually very similar to cocaine, will expose children to habitual drug taking and will make them more open to experimenting with hard drugs when they become teenagers.

These theories were first proposed by physicians. The ideas were later picked up and expanded upon by distributors of natural treatments for ADHD and are used to play upon the fears of parent in order to sell their ‘drug free’ alternatives.

So the question is, is there a connection with Ritalin and other stimulant medication use in children and future drug abuse problems? That is what we are going to explore in this article.

Ritalin Treatment and Future Drug Abuse

The truth is that this question has been researched and we have a very clear answer. In fact, researchers have found a very strong connection between childhood use of Ritalin and other stimulant medication to treat ADHD and the risk of future drug abuse in ADHD teenagers.

However, the results are exactly the opposite of what most parents think. Use of stimulant medication in ADHD children does not increase the risk of future drug abuse. It reduces the risk of drug abuse, and reduces it dramatically.

In 1999, a study funded by National Institute on Drug Abuse and the National Institute of Mental Health compared three groups of boys – those with ADHD who had been treated with stimulants, those with ADHD who had not been treated with stimulants, and those without ADHD. The researchers followed the children to determine their susceptibility to substance use disorder.

This research project was a combined effort of researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital, Harvard School of Public Health, and Harvard Medical School. The scientists divided 212 boys into three groups and followed them for several years.

The first group consisted of 56 boys with ADHD who received on the average four years of drug treatment for their ADHD. The second group was made up of 19 boys also with ADHD, but who received no drug treatment for their condition. The third group consisted of 137 boys who did not have ADHD.

When the boys were 15 or older, they were evaluated for substance abuse disorders involving alcohol, marijuana, hallucinogens, stimulants, or cocaine.

(I want to point out that there is a difference between substance abuse and a substance abuse disorder. Substance abuse is recreational use of medications. This may include inappropriate use of alcohol or other drugs. This is fairly common in our society and does not always indicate a significant problem. Our real concern is when recreational use of medication becomes a disorder. A substance abuse disorder is where the person continues to use a mood- or behavior-altering substance despite the fact that this substance causes significant problems in the person’s life.)

Results of the study were fairly dramatic. 18 percent of children without ADHD had at least one substance abuse disorder, when surveyed in their mid teens. The group of ADHD children who received medical treatment fared almost as well. Only 25 percent of that group had at least one substance abuse disorder.

However, among the ADHD children that did not receive medical treatment, 75 percent of that group had at least one substance use disorder during the follow up study.

This study suggests that if your child has ADHD and does not take medication, he is three times as likely to get seriously involved with drugs, than if he does receive medication.

Other researchers have found that the younger age that medical treatment began, the lower the risk of a future drug abuse problem.

Other Risk Factors

Other factors have been identified that predict a higher risk of future drug abuse.

Wilens found that the two biggest indicators of future substance abuse disorder in ADHD children were coexistent conduct disorder and coexistent bipolar disorder. Other researchers found that with regard to conduct disorder, IQ played a factor.

Children with conduct disorder and high IQ scores were more likely to later develop a drug problem. In contrast, in children who did not have a conduct disorder, those with a lower IQ were more likely to develop a substance abuse disorder.


Most parents are concerned about starting their ADHD children on stimulant medications. This is for a variety of reasons and many of these reasons are valid. However, what many of these well meaning parents fail to consider is that there are concrete risks involved with not starting their children on drug treatment. One very measurable risk is the risk of future drug involvement.

Parents must consider that the risk of future drug abuse gets larger the longer they withhold medical treatment from their children. The risk becomes three times as great when they withhold medical treatment completely from their ADHD children. If ADHD is complicated by conduct disorder or bipolar disorder there is even a greater chance of future drug abuse developing.

So if your child has ADHD it could be that giving medication may not be the best approach. But you should know that not giving medication also carries with it some danger. When you manage the ADHD treatment of your child be sure to consider all the risks before you make your decision.


Anthony Kane, MD
ADD ADHD Advances