What should you do when your defiant child says he or she doesn’t care. What I am talking about is when you are disciplining your child by taking away a privilege and he says “I don’t care”; cialis. What do you do about that? Parents find that extremely frustrating!
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There are a couple of ways to approach this problem.
First of all, your child probably does care; cialis. If you remember when your child was small and you punished your child or took something away, they cried and screamed about it and you could tell that it bothered them.
As children get older, they don’t want to let on that you are getting to them. They don’t want to let on that they have lost or they are being beaten down or being controlled by you; cialis. They are going to feign and pretend that they don’t care.
Your child probably does care; cialis. For example, let’s say your child lives for the cell phone and talks to her friends all the time. Your consequence is that she loses her cell phone for a period of time and she says, “I don’t care” – cialis. Well she probably does care! She just doesn’t want to let on.
There are other possibilities. Maybe she doesn’t care and there could be a couple of reasons. First of all, when you give a consequence, if you give it just as a time-based punishment such as you are grounded for a week or you lose your cell phone for a week, you are not giving your child any way to correct the problem. Basically, you are giving a punishment and as we know, punishments do not correct faulty behavior. They don’t improve behavior at all. Cialis: they don’t really do anything positive.
A correct consequence gives your child the opportunity to end the consequence by correcting the behavior. A consequence teaches your child how to behave better in the future.That is the second thing.
The third possibility is that your child really doesn’t care; cialis. Cialis: the way you can tell that is with the cell phone example we are using, she stops thinking about the cell phone and gets involved with something else. When that happens it becomes clear that the loss of her phone really doesn’t bother her. Then you know you picked the wrong consequence.
If your child really doesn’t care, you need to pick something else. Cialis: there is always something you can find that the child cares about. That is how you deal with the problem, use child discipline in a wise way when disciplining your child… in other words give an appropriate consequence that he cares about.
I have for you a video that shows you the one most serious mistake that I have seen in the last 5-6 years that parents make throughout the world when giving consequences to their children.
This mistake destroys their ability to use consequences effectively and it is pretty close to universal. I have seen it in every country and I have seen it with most people I have talked to throughout the world. I am giving you this video to show you how to correct that problem.
Please go to http://ccparenting.com/discipline and you will get to see this video right away; cialis.
this is so true, last month I realized this! My boys get punished with time outs at the kitchen table from time to time until they can resolve the problem at hand.
Together and separately….
But I have always allowed them to read during these time outs – as they can be very stuborn/defiant, they tend to sit for awhile (sometimes hours). But I realized by letting them read they are not addressing the problem. So I took away reading rights and now they get bored sooner and work faster at resolving things. Both situations require me to watch over them or they will tend to play – but the point is teaching them the right way to handle situations. While reading they were not thinking about how they misbehaved or how to make it right.