Purchase cialis: here’s another video I just made for you. It is on You Tube but I put it here on the blog so that you can leave comments.
In it you’ll see how to get your child to do what you ask, including
- Chores
- Helping out
- Special requests
and you’ll be able to do this:
- Without frustration
- Without pleading
- Without exhausting yourself
You can see it right now by pressing the “play” button:
Please leave a comment below and let me know how you like it:-)
Warmly,
Anthony Kane, MD
P.S. Some one posted an encouraging comment on my blog last time so I have decided to show you what I think Michelangelo’s blog would have looked like.
This is the blog rendition of the Sistine Chapel
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Unfortunately this video acted exactly like my children, when I pressed play, nothing happened!!
you are some funny! am looking forward to trying the getting chore’s done tactic on my 13 and 11 year old daughters! will report back in a few days.
I like the phrase, \\"washed out rag\\", because I have felt like that for years when dealing w/the kids unresponsiveness to direction. I also decided a couple years ago to replace \\"but\\" with \\"and\\" at work, and I\\\’m trying to implement it at home as well. The techniques described in your video are simple (why can\\\’t WE think of that?!) and will hopefully help us feel less like a TV and in control in our homes.
THanks.
Dr. Kane,
A few months ago I started using your ‘AND” technique with my severely ADHD/ADD 16 year old son. This child has been expelled from every group day care he was in starting at 3 years of age, expelled from two high schools, spent many wasted hours in therapy. You get the picture.
Your “AND” technique has changed our lives. I remain calm, polite and firm. Now he usually follows my request before I have to use even one “AND” because I have established authority using this simple technique.
I have also used your technique of making requests he won’t say ‘no’ to. I will ask him if he wants his favorite item for dinner, and then ask him to go get an necessary ingredient from the pantry. Leaving a mail order item for him in the trunk of the car, and asking him to go get it….
Now he is so much more cooperative!!!!
Thank you!
Sandy
nothing happened I could not access the video and i so wanted to , as this is starting to become a problem especially when my two children start to argue over things its very draining . I also work in aschool and so my patience wears very thin after a while.
Hi Dr Kane
I used your and technique with great success! It was met with ALOT of resistance but I remained calm and repeated the 3 step process over and over again and eventually my son started laughing as he realised he wasn\’t going to win. Thanks! I know feel I have control back.
Dr. Kane,
So far all of your advice has been spot-on, and worked!! Now that my ODD son is no longer violent, verbally abusive and actually does some chores around the house when is explicitly requested to do so.
Now for the next step – How do I get him to get out of bed and to GET A LIFE?
He is actually pleasant to be around, but he is failing school, does not participate in sports, quit his part time job for no reason, and is the epitome of laziness.
I make my children earn their allowance, my son would rather be broke and not get to go to the movies with his friends, or have any spending money than to work. He is sleeping his life away. (he is not ill.)
Any Ideas?
Sandy
Thank you for putting out these videos….it has really made me take a second look at how I can improve and continue with athority w/o argument…..in a positive way….
That\\\’s the problem here in our house….too many arguments…..I will try your technique…I\\\’ll keep you posted
Thanks